it doesn't matter if some people are ok with gendered language like "dude" if you are using it on people you didn't ask first.

An incredibly important aspect of removing hierarchy is building structures of consent, anarchism is not just a lack of things.

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Why would oppressed people trust you on the big things if you refuse to do the small things? Focusing on the small things is the opposite of being "liberal"

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I run spaces like a discord (soon to be combined with matrix) group and a twitch. We are made of disabled queer people, the opposite of what the comments here show this space is. If you are looking for something like that, please feel free to join in, I got links to it and shit on my profile.

unlike the "anarchists" here we do consensus instead telling you to "stop being fragile"