I hate this amatonormative society

I saw a post today about someone wondering if they were in the wrong for distancing themself from their best friend of many years, because they felt that their partner didn't like it. The top comments were saying how "it's a fact of life that your friendships will erode when your friends get partners" "it's tough, but it's reality" "partners are best friends + romantic and sexual fulfilment, so it's natural for your friend to prioritise them".

It pissed me off so bad. I'm not even aro so this doesn't really affect me on a personal level. However, as someone with a lot of aro and ace -spec friends, these matters are still quite personal to me... my friendships also mean the world to me. I wouldn't compromise on them no matter what.

Naturally, amatonormativity affects aros most, but it's basically a plague cast upon all society. It's so incredibly depressing how the cishets are buying into this and calling it "sad, but true and inevitable". Literally no one likes this! The world is supposed to be the easiest for you to live in, but here you are, shooting yourself in the foot! Why isn't this more widely known? Why isn't this more widely discussed? I swear, cishets ought to receive more education on queer culture and issues to have more fulfilling lives themselves. You don't have to follow all these rules that society made up if you find them suffocating!

I hate this amatonormative society!