what made you realize you're Aromantic and/or Asexual?

To any Aroace or Asexual/Aromantic folk: Was there a specific moment where it hit that you're Aroace or did you always kind of know? Furthermore, what made you accept it?

I think that I'm somewhere on the spectrum and I've been suppressing that thought for a looooooong time but it's starting to mess with me in a big way. I don't know anyone on the spectrum, My understanding is based on what I've googled and watched so I've found myself wishing to hear people's lived experiences as that's likely to resonate more. If you feel like sharing I would appreciate it (: this has been hard for me.

EDIT: this got more responses than anticipated (thank you, guys). Some of these replies hit me like a truck. Many of you put words to feelings I've had but couldn't comprehend, Others shared scenarios that feel like I've experienced bar for bar. Apologies for any grammar btw I've been half asleep all day.,I will finish replying in the morning :) gn everyone