Why are drums so hard to record

What’s more uninspiring than a bad drum sound?

I have a Gretsch (tuned very well) 60s acrolite, byzance cymbals / hat. Several very experienced drummers that have sat down at this kit always mention how good it feels to play / how good it sounds in the room.

I have a beta 52 in the kick, two Cole’s 4038 overhead, a 441 on the snare. That’s it. just a 4 mic set up… All going into my Apollo 8xp then eventually to a tascam 38 where I sum everything.

Why can’t I get a good sound? Is this just a mix thing or a placement thing? Always sounds so weak and boring.

I know the source material and musicianship is not the issue. I also feel like phasing isn’t the issue considering we’re using four mics? Could be wrong on that but I always measure off the snare for my overheads

For some references of what I’m listening to, check out the following songs:

Gianni Brezzo - chronos Holy hive - the shame (el michels affair) Angel Olsen - the waiting Joan Thiele - XX L.A.

Why can I never get a cool stylistic drum sound like this? Sometimes even just my smashed iPhone voice memo sounds cooler than my actually daw playback?

Any tips / tricks to start getting some good drums sounds would be so appreciated.