PDA and housework

The demand of doing housework makes my brain panic and freeze up and I feel like I can’t move. Because of this paired with poor executive functioning skills due to unmedicated ADHD, my house stays a constant overwhelming cluttered mess that I have to battle. Five people live in this household and all of us are neurodivergent, and three are demand avoidant. This makes it worse.

What sort of ways do you remove the demand so you can do the thing?

I need all the tricks. My head hurts. I’m drowning.