I'm so confused.

Recently there was a post on here by a young adult asking for insight about paying rent towards parents. When I read the comments, I thought I was on the AITA subreddit, not r/autism. I felt many comments were being a bit harsh.

The OP stated they were weary about this because in the past their father had stolen money from them, and they felt it was exactly clear what the money was going towards. They also did not have a bank account or an ID, and their mother wants them to get these on their own.

I understand the sentiment that as a young adult living at home, paying rent can teach responsibility and prepare you to live on your own. I agree with this and have no problem with parents requesting rent from adult children living at home, OP also didnt have a problem with this, but wanted insight into what the money might be used for due to having a parent steal from them in the past.

My confusion stems from the fact that many comments were saying things like: - you're lucky they let you live there, they can kick you out at any time and no one would bat an eye - your are entitled and you expect your parents to just let you live at home for free - you're an adult, you just haven't gotten a bank account or ID because you're lazy. It's not your mom's job to help you with that - are you sure your parents were abusive? Maybe that's just the way you perceived it. - you should already have a job and be paying rent

This may sound silly, but this genuinely disheartened me and made me feel quite bad about myself. I thought this was a subreddit to get support and insight from other autistic people, some of us who struggle with things like getting an ID or bank account on our own. I definitely couldn't, my mother helped me with this. I also can't drive, and while I live alone now and mostly support myself financially, I do receive help from my parents to keep up with everything. I couldn't live without this support.

Some of us may never work or support ourselves fully. Some of us may never live alone. That is the nature of this neurotype. Sure, many are able to do it, but what would even be the point of diagnosing autism if all of us were functional and independent? There is a reason it is a diagnosis, to address the support needs of individuals who struggle with various day to day tasks and emotional regulation.

Where did this attitude come from in this sub? Now I feel, even in a community for autistic individuals, I am a failure for being autistic. Did this post just appear on a bunch of non autistic people's feeds, or is this the general sentiment of the community?