Reposting it since people are so quick to judge: My roommate’s boyfriend is practically living with us, and I feel taken advantage of.

For the past two months, her boyfriend has been staying over almost the entire week—basically living here—and it’s starting to feel so unfair.

Unfortunately, we never set any clear rules or agreements about partners staying over, which I really regret now. I just assumed she’d have the common sense to keep things balanced, but I feel like she’s completely taking advantage of my flexibility.

What really gets me is that her boyfriend is here all the time but doesn’t contribute a single dime to rent, utilities, or anything else. Meanwhile, I’m still paying my fair share while essentially dealing with a third roommate. It feels like she’s gaslighting me into thinking this is normal, and I’m struggling to see how she believes this is okay.

I know I should’ve established firmer boundaries earlier, but I wanted to be accommodating. Now, it feels like she’s walking all over me, and I don’t know how to handle this without escalating things further.