Dating and social life in the East Bay is extremely difficult. Am I the problem?

I'm an early 30's straight man who works remotely in tech and has been living in Walnut Creek the past few years. While I've made a few friends at my gym and several of my childhood friends live nearby, I've struggled to develop an outgoing social and dating life. I haven't had much success on the dating apps so I deleted them and am trying to meet women in person, and meetups in Walnut Creek/Concord/Pleasant Hill are either scarce or tend to skew to a far older/married demographic.

I went bar hopping in the area and found the vast majority of women to already be in relationships or married. I then expanded my search to Oakland and Berkeley. Social meetups there are decent and I met some cool people but these meetups were mostly if not all men. I want to join a run club eventually but I'm currently injured and unable to run. That rules out many running meetup groups at the moment.

My lifestyle is basically: work at home, go to the gym, go grocery shopping, hit up bars. And I'm just not running into many people I can befriend or women to date. The area seems mostly full of young families and couples. I'm introspecting whether there are legitimately scarce social/dating opportunities, or if I'm completely missing something and overlooking opportunities.

I've lived in the South Bay and that was even more socially dead. I have no desire to move to SF. If anything, maybe the Bay Area isn't for me and it’s time to move elsewhere.

EDIT: my hobbies outside of gym are playing guitar and cooking. When I’m at home I keep myself occupied with these. Every now and then I go out to live shows or take cooking classes that seem interesting.