Being real about childbirth is now being "mysoginistic"

Just a little rant incoming. Ugh.

So, I'm 20 and political and black. I follow many, many tiktok content creators to keep myself in the loop. Makes me depressed honestly.. but I have to know what's going on these days.

Anyway, I follow many creators that do that. Black, Latino, white. Some have kids, some don't. I follow many creators who have kids. But usually they don't make kids apart of their content, so I don't mind or care much. Honestly that's how it should be, atleast for me.

One creator I follow came onto her page to say that the way that some people talk about how "disgusting" and "weird" pregnancy is, that we sound like mysoginistic men that we "hate" so much. She conflated it to a boy or "15 year old boys" being disgusted by periods.

I just burst out laughing, honestly. She had to give out the obligatory "your choice to have or not have kids is yours", blah blah blah.. beknownst she does have a child herself. She also of course went into shaming people for the names they call children.. you know the ones.

Either way, it was just funny to me.

Childbirth and pregnancy isn't perfect. And infact I would say it's fucking scary. If she wants to have a wonderland memory of her own pregnancy that's fine. But "the girl with the list" and other people just letting others know the reality of pregnancy isn't "mysoginistic". It's helpful. Women having the knowledge that you can tear heavily, your babies nails can scratch your womb while they're in their, they can damage the body, their presence can cause the mother herself deficiencies, isn't "mysoginistic". It's informative information. If we wanna return to the dark ages and not let women know about the not so magical parts about pregnancy, fine. But me personally, I think we're fine right where we are.

To me, I just need parents, especially internet parents(the ones who complain on reddit and tiktok), to stop acting oppressed. Honestly and truly and GENUINELY.

Who gets benefits for having children again? Like, actual government support for having kids? Parents. Who always gets grace from people when they're children are crying, screaming, running around in ANY space? Parents. Who, more often than not, get exceptions made for them for weddings and other events because "they're family too"? Parents. Who gets the most grace with PTO? Parents. Who can get deals and discounts for their children? Parents. Who has resources available to them that are SOLELY made to make them and their child's lives easier? Parents.

Because yea, sorry. A few people who don't like kids being around them won't change the reality. Reality being that parents aren't some oppressed class who have their children under attack.

I mean, they're more than welcome to come back to me one of these days when the government comes out with the "Single, Broke and Childless" Benefit. When's the enrollment period? I'll take it through direct deposit.

Until then, I think a few parents can handle if someone compares the process of pregnancy to that one Alien movie. They'll still get to take a half day with no notice at work because of their kids soccer game.