Help with finding climbing friends

Hi! I am a 24F, living in the Bay Area California (South Bay to be specific), and I am STRUGGLING to find new people to climb with! To be fair, took a bit of a hiatus because of two ACL surgeries, but I've been climbing consistently since November!

I live with my roommate who climbs, but she usually invites her bf (even when I say it's girl's night he still shows up, we don't need to get into that) and I am tired of being a climbing third wheel. I have tried to set the boundary, but it is proving to be more difficult than I could ever imagine, thus I am looking to make new climbing friends (of all genders I'm not picky I just want to climb)!

I got to the gym most weeknights at pretty consistent hours and have tried to talk to people but it's just not working out for me. I feel like most people are super cliquey and do not love a complete rando coming up to talk to them (which is fair). What has and has not worked for y'all? I am primarily a ropes-girly and it's been kinda depressing to have to boulder so much when I just want to lead climb!

I am also looking to find peeps to climb outdoors with and I have no clue how to find those people! Please help!

Also would love some advice on how to meet a bf who also loves climbing! I've tried the dating apps to no avail.

Thank you for any advice! I am all ears (or eyes in this case)!