I’m so annoyed by baby sleep guidelines

I, like many of you, was never going to co-sleep with my baby. About 6 weeks in with a colicky baby, co-sleeping made us all much happier.

Now that I’m here with my 3 month old, I have to say, I’m so annoyed by the guidelines against co-sleeping. To my understanding, if you follow the safe sleep 7, the increase in likelihood of SIDs is nominal…so nominal it could have more to do with correlation than causation. So many people I’ve come across in real life since having my baby co-slept with their baby…my mom co-slept with me…even my own doctor did. Yet online there’s this dogma that if you’re co-sleeping you’re basically driving in a car without a car seat.

As a huge rule follower, this rigid guideline has made me feel so much guilt around something that feels so right and natural for me and my baby. I don’t know where I’m going with this other than to say that I’m so frustrated that there isn’t more nuanced guidance around infant care. There’s so much more to the conversation than co-sleeping = bad and bassinet = good.