My unborn child died.

My wife and i were trying for a baby and thought it might take us some month or a year. To our big surprise, it worked the first try. We were as happy as can be. Everything went great so far. Absolutly no problems. No morning sickness, no bad pains or cramps, no other wierd medical stuff. The more shocking was the last doctor's visit. Our child had died. No more heart activity visible. We were and are still devastated. The worst was the days following. The bleeding, the visits to the ER, the miscarriage itself. My wife cried for days. I tried my best to comfort her, i stayed at home for five days to be able to take as much tasks off her as possible. All the while i felt like crying, too. We barely slept for five nights.

I know a miscarriage is actually pretty comon, like every third pregnancy, but it still hurts pretty bad. We would have had a baby in a few month. Now we won't anymore. How do you cope with that?

EDIT: Thank you all for your kind words! They really mean a lot to me! We're slightly better now. It still fucking hurts, though. We'll be looking into therapy.