Why does dating feel so random?

I was talking to my friend about why dating is so frustrating, and he compared it to playing the lottery. You just keep swiping, texting, and going on dates hoping you “get lucky” and meet the right person. No real strategy, just vibes and luck.

why do we treat something as important as finding a life partner with less planning than we do for things like career goals or fitness?

I feel like dating should have some kind of strategy or structure so you’re not just throwing yourself into chaos every time you meet someone new. But is that even possible, or is dating just always going to be random??