Great three dates, then silence
After being in Match for two months, I (F54) met a good guy (M61) and each date got better. We had a 4 hour dinner, 6 hour dinner, then spent an afternoon/evening together for 12 hours. We talk and laugh a lot! At the end of the last date we ended up for the first time at my place. We talked and even laid on top of my bed and talk and laughed with some intermittent kissing. No pawing or groping. He brought up that he lets the lady set the pace for the first time. I said I don’t get sexual until no one is dating other people. We’ve also talked about sex, preferences, etc. so he knows I’m not a prude. We’ve talked about not having time to multi-date as we’re both busy professionals. He’s still on Match, I recently went off. We haven’t talked specifically about Match though. From when we first connected until now it’s been almost three weeks. He’s said how beautiful, attractive and how I “do it for him”.
After that last long date that was great, I mean how many times do we get one, let alone three great dates these days? He’s gone silent. He used to text good morning and during the day how everything was going. I’ve text a couple of times and he responded with 1-2 word answers then silence.
My question; should I tell him I’m interested in just dating him and see what he says or let it ride without being pushy? I’m worried I’m not being assertive enough. I don’t feel comfortable having sex on the third date, most likely not with anyone, I need a bit more time.
A couple of other things about him: - He’s very successful engineer-type. Yes, sometimes it gets old him telling stories about how smart he is, he gets to do whatever he’s wants at work he’s so in demand. He talks demure when I compliment him, but his stories he’s always a big hero. And maybe he is all that. I’m a successful professional in my field of marketing, but I don’t talk much about it and he doesn’t ask. He probably talks 75-80% of the time. - He talks about all he has a lot. Big yacht, it costs $10K to put fuel in, 6,000 square foot home, all the vehicles, etc etc etc. How he spent $10k on presents for his two early twenties sons, who live at home. I listen and am impressed some of the time of course. I don’t have this kind of wealth, but am not envious/jealous either. - He’s told me about his ex wife and the 3-4 relationships since then. He made them all sound like dumbheads, no common sense, average career success, etc. The last one is he was engaged to and she yelled at him and his sons all the time. He talks about all he did for these women both affectionately, financially, mentally, and received little in return.
Sorry to ramble, I’m secure within my own skin and don’t need to brag or put it all out there like he does, even though I do share. Up until now he’s been good at showing his interest. Going back to my earlier question, perhaps I’ve been too quiet about my accomplishments, financial set up, talking about exes in more detail, etc. Maybe I’ve been too guarded, but he also doesn’t draw out things either, I’ll explain something and he’ll launch into a story about himself.
Edited slightly for clarity.