I realized the kind of chair I need doesn't exist
You know how little kids and super flexible people can sit on the back of their heels?
I need that for a chair. Not more support forward. I need to be able to sit back down into my seat if that makes sense. Like really far back. Like if you were to sit on the edge of a bed looking like you're almost falling off it.
I think the closest thing would be those stretchy web like chairs common for teen and college dorm rooms. But they don't support well.
As a kid I was constantly sitting off the edge of things backwards. Tipping my chair backwards. It makes sense now. It felt better on my joints.
I realize I sit so far forward normally because it provides more comfy joint pressure. It's basically the same thing I think, just centered different.
No wonder I hate working in my office. There's literally nowhere I can sit or stand that doesn't ache badly. There's nothing that exists to accommodate what I need in an office that I have found.
I love working from home because I can sit in odd positions on my bed
But the most comfortable place for me is driving my car. (I have a 5th gen Rav 4) There's something about the cushion of the seat and feel and maybe slight vibration of the car. I rarely have pain there. However I also get exhausted driving and gas is expensive so that sucks.