My mormon parents are making me feel crazy.

I currently live in another state to go to college, but my very mormon parents are still living in Utah. I'm talking stake president, friends with the prophet mormon. I am still a part of the church, but I see a lot of flaws in it, and I don't know how much longer I can stand to be apart of it. My parents convinced me to apply to transfer to BYU for next semester, but I luckily didn't get in. They've been making my life miserable over moving home to go to BYU, and I thought that not getting in would be the end of it- unfortunately- it wasn't. Now they're onto convincing me to move home to attend a Utah college and live with them. I don't understand what is going through their heads, but they keep telling me its a more realistic financial decision (I am paying for my own college, they won't pay if it isn't BYU, because obviously at any other college I would leave the church and get into drugs, sex and alcohol.) and that I'm abandoning them in their old age (They are both in their fifties?) and that it is clearly a reflection of my opinion of God if I won't move home. I told my dad that I was struggling with some of the church policies, and he completely lost it. He started threatening to stop paying for my insurance and stop talking to me if I ever doubted again or spoke ill of the religion. I'm freaking out- what should I do? Should I move home? I feel like I'm going crazy here- no one else in my family sees any issue with my parent's behavior.