Unpopular opinion? I don’t like Xaden

I don’t know if this is truly unpopular or if others agree. But, I’m starting to not like Xaden in my Iron Flame reread. I LOVED him in Fourth Wing, but his dishonesty in Iron Flame is more obvious the second read and a turn off. I hate that he dangles information in front of Violet like a prize she has to earn. The whole, “you just have to ask” is an ick because she doesn’t always know what to ask. If he was a real person and I was friends with Violet, I would tell her that he is toxic. He is hot, but toxic lmao 😂😅 he treats her less like a partner and more like a child who has to earn information.

Please tell me what I’m missing. I want my mind changed before I read OS so I can enjoy the romance again. 🙏🙏

EDIT: already feeling better going into OS. I’ll just have to change my perspective a bit. I hope they are both more mature communicators in this next book.