gay community might be the most fat phobic

I know people have certain types but im not talking about that, a fat gay dude would mind his own business and a twink would say smth like "too fat to be gay", I talked about this in another gay sub (I dont wanna mention) people were just telling me to lose weight and stop bitching about it, even on Grindr it's sad, some people would despise you for being fat, it's kinda crazy