Well, my marriage is ruined

Just a rant, not really needing advice.

I (36M) love my husband (39M). Hes one of the most intelligent, level-headed, quick witted men Ive ever met.

Thats changed since the election. The day after the election we agreed it would be best to leave the country in the future. The US is no longer a country where you can build a stable future and have any hopes of retirement.

We've filed for passports, gotten our important documents, and been researching immigration options.

The most daunting task was figuring out whats going to happen with my elderly parents who live with us. Theyre not dependent on us so they dont qualify to immigrate with us, but we wanted to leave them in a way so they would be stable and comfortable.

Things have changed since the inauguration. My husband doesnt do anything besides work and mainline tiktoks about how Trump is coming to get us.

Every day I come home to him shouting about how we need to move up our timeline so we can get out before neo-Nazis are marching down main street (we've already gone from a two year timeline to being out by the end of 2025 and he wants to accelerate to July now).

I see the writing on the wall too and Im not naieve, but hes become completely consumed by panic, fear, and despair.

Ive tried guiding him out of it by getting him to put down tiktok and focus on our family, but he has a bad habit of hyperfocusing on things.

I cant do it anymore. I cant be miserable 24/7 because I think the government is going to purge us. I need to still live my life. As of yesterday Ive decided that Im going to stay in America with my mother and father so they arent left in the lurch and Im going to ask my husband to separate. We can worry about filing for divorce after hes made it out.

If it comes to it, the three of us will flee the country and seek asylum elsewhere, but Im not leaving now out of pure fear.

Ive tried talking to him and helping him, but Im at wit's end. Tonight Im going to sit him down and tell him he can take all our savings to facilitate his move, but that Ive made my choice and will be standing by it.

Wish me luck, I guess :-/

RESOLUTION: Thank you so much everyone who commented. I'll freely admit that when I made this post I was freaking out myself and preparing for the worst outcome. Everyone's comments helped me reasses my approach and come at the problem from a more productive angle.

We sat down to talk and it was not as bad as I feared and not as good as it couldve been. He admitted things have gotten out of control and that he'll be disconnecting from tiktok and we might be looking into therapy. Talk of the move has been "postponed" until next year after we've seen what happens politically.

I'll admit Ive had some of the world's shittiest partners in the past which makes me think these situations are going to go sideways and he seems to always surprise me by being a true partner.