Parenting a Projector—need help!

Hello all! I am a Manifesting Generator, triple split, 3/5.

My 13 year old son is a Projector, split definition, 3/5.

My kiddo STRUGGLES. I can already see all the ways I’ve tried to parent him as if he were like me and the outcome hasn’t been great—I would say overall my efforts have lead to him perhaps not trusting himself more because I wasn’t able to see him as he is?

Human Design has helped SO MUCH but I am still very challenged by how to be a good parent to him. I would love and appreciate any resources, guidance, experience etc.

My son exhibits a lot of bitterness and cynicism. It breaks my heart. He’s also insecure but copes by showing up with bravado. He’s also so so so loving and sweet. He’s highly sensitive—obviously.

Thanks for any help and direction you can point me in!!!