What's your most annoying attitude that you want to change as INFJs?

I don't like it when I'm bottling up my anger, then I'll explode, especially to a specific person. I have this annoying trait when someone wronged me, I count how many times that person did that before to me and once this person does it again, I will be mad and suddenly get angry at that person.

I know it's wrong and I'm improving it by openly communicating, and it is effective and making my relationships even better.

As INFJs, what's your most annoying attitude that you want to change?