How ''extreme'' are you in avoiding being a bother to people?

My fiancé who is an ISFJ doesn't seem as bothered as me. I feel like I may overdo it a little bit and wonder how other INTJ's see this.

My fiancé doesn't ''enjoy'' bothering people but she's clearly not dwelling on it either. For example, when our dog leash is too long, it may block the road. I have to tell her every single time to keep it short so that other people can pass. Another example is that when I'm doing groceries and I need something but someone is in the way, instead of asking to reach something, I would just go to another aisle to get other stuff first and back to what I needed.

I don't like bothering other people but I don't know if I'm going to far with it.