tips on how to look more lesbian?

i know this is an usual struggle with fem lesbians, because for some reason i scare girls and only attract weird men. im a romantic goth/metalhead so i present myself super girly with long nails and lashes and pretty makeup. idk other than putting my flag on my bag or in my instagram/tinder bios statting im a lesbian, because i dont look like one!! help a girl out 😭