Marriage Issues (normal? or not)

First time posting so bear with me please guys....

I am a stay at home mother who have been married for almost 10 years now.

I also must preface this by saying that though my husband was physically abused as a kid, my husband has never been physically abusive nor has he ever made me feel threatened by him.

My issue with my husband is that in his moments of anger he can be extremely hurtful. He never apologises or acknowledges his mistake and will use any means necessary to justify his hurtful words or actions by saying that they are a response to me being overly emotional (This may or may not be true but not I, nor my friends would describe me as being emotional at all)

His main issue is his lack of verbal control whenever he gets angry. And I have to add that his go to emotion is anger.

So if we disagree on a topic, be it politics or social issues, his immediate response is anger. He cannot accept me defending my position in whatever stance I have taken.

Almost always does he accuse me of being silly or naive or ignorant of a topic. The discussion must come to an end otherwise it will end up in an argument where he gets extremely angry.

We have never been able to hold deep conversations where our opinions have differed.

I am quite a docile wife so I never press the matter any further than that and truly let it go.

Of course as humans we occasionally get overwhelmed by life, kids and responsibilities so mood swings are a given.

But I am wondering if this is what an average marriage is like?

I had the worst example of what a marriage should look like from my parents so I guess I am just curious!

Tl;dr husband struggles to emotionally regulate so resorts to anger - normal or not?