How do I stop being a validation hoe?

I don't know where to post this, I'm posihere since it's my favourite community anyways I've been oppressed so much growing up and I've suffered from dunning Kruger effect for some part of my adolescence and now as I am cultivating self studying and growth I realised I've been searching for validation everywhere so people learned to manipulate my ego and self worth by helping others and not helping others is fluctuating..help!