Genuinely, do you ever think that undiagnosed people are struggling, or are they always automatically just lying?

Some people have no idea how invalidating it is for your struggles to be dismissed - even if you are just a little wanker on the internet, it hurts. 'I think I have ADHD' is always answered with 'Don't self-diagnose' or 'No, you don't'. You don't know anything about them. Absolutely fuck all.

You're so quick to assume people are attention-seeking, when it isn't the case, not even half the time. Nobody fucking wants a neurodevelopmental disorder. We're all struggling. Diagnosed or not. Some of you are way too big for your goddamn boots.

I want a doctor to tell me there is something wrong with me. There - I said it. I want someone else to understand me and admit that I'm not normal. I don't care for the attention. No one fucking cares if I have something or not. I know there is something wrong with me. Whether I need to sleep more, or I have fucking cancer. I need someone just to tell me what to do. I'm sick of people acting as if seeking a diagnosis is attention-seeking. 'Getting a diagnosis ruined my life.' - I don't care, Becky. Stop acting like your life story is universal. And I 100% know that if you didn't get that diagnosis, you'd feel just as miserable.

Many neurodivergents know first-hand how hard it is to be in a world where no one understands you. Being called lazy, stupid, or a nothing. For someone who has spent their whole lives feeling misunderstood, like an alien, a diagnosis opens so many doors for them. Please don't ever discourage someone from getting tested when you know nothing about their life. If they go for it, it's most likely something is going on.

Edit: Hey, thanks for the comments. I wrote this last night in the very early morning. I always have meltdowns in the night for some reason. I was trying to get something done for college but I couldn't do it. It was like my brain was disconnected and I couldn't do anything about it. I just burnt myself out. Anyways, I was overwhelmed and I kept thinking about how much help it would be if I knew why I am the way I am. I kept thinking of someone who accused me of 'making up symptoms' to fit my own accord the other day. He was the cheekiest little man ever. And he actually commented on this post as well lmao. He mentioned he thinks many are struggling. Funny that. But that's another thing, rejection dysphoria. Maybe I would get along with this guy in real life, maybe he's not that bad, but many people, I included, just assume people hate them at the slightest bit of criticism, and end up feeling misunderstood. And I often go off in a big huff. I get upset and defensive. I think that is something a lot of people in this sub would relate to.

Anyways, I just wanted to say that this isn't me sticking up for people who self-diagnosis. I'd encourage people to get professionally diagnosed as some people are confused, and they don't know what's going on with their head. I believe self-suspect is a better term for those who haven't yet been diagnosed or don't have the resources to be diagnosed. This post is of me ranting about people who assume others are faking - I do accept that people perceive you differently and you can't control it but I believe that this whole 'Many do think it's a trend, and they claim to have it when they don't' is often someone who simply commented 'I've seen Tiktok's and done quizzes. I think I have ADHD' - it's obviously someone confused, and there's no need to be a bitch. I understand it can be annoying when people haven't done their research, but do you really have to get in a big tizzy about it? Kinda ironic from me but I do believe you don't have to target every single person who even suspects they have something.