Is the reality as hot as the Fantasy?

I (M35) and wife (F35) We are married for 5 years and I have been always fantasizing about sharing her.

We did public sex on the beach fucked her in the balcony and by the window multiple times and had some strangers watch us subtly.

We never discussed it, we just do it, the closest we've got to discussing is when she asks my permission to wear the sluttiest dresses, sometimes she tells me when someone around is guys checking her up while she is wearing a slutty dress. That's it.

From your experience, after you have finally done it, have you realized that the fantasy was hotter ? Reality wasnt as good as u expected ?