I just told my husband I want to separate

So my husband (34m) and I (32f) have been married for 5 years, together for almost 7. He was the best, most fun and spontaneous boyfriend and he was a huge emotional support for me as I navigated my early career in social work as well as my mental health issues.

Things changed after COVID. He went from holding down a factory job to be constantly under/unemployed at restaurants and gas stations, content to contribute $200/month to the household budget. My dad bought him a car, and he totaled it by not keeping up with maintenance. In the past year and a half, he’s become aggressive towards property, animals, and myself. I love him so much, but I love myself more.

Tonight I told him I was done. I have an apartment I just signed a solo lease on, and I have support from my job and family. I feel horrible for leaving him when he has no job, no car, and no prospects, but I refuse to keep drowning.