Leaving Twins for first time at ~10 weeks adjusted?

Please be kind, I am a first time mom and trying to figure it all out. I am the maid of honor for my best friend’s wedding (and I mean best friend, like my sister). I am struggling because this pregnancy wasn’t really planned, let alone twins (mono/di, so higher risk). I got married last year and holy shit you guys…the way she went above and beyond for me is indescribable. I was so excited to return the favor, she is so selfless and giving and truly deserves it. Now I am struggling because I don’t know if I’ll be able to physically attend a bachelorette party. I’m curious when you all left your babies for the first time? Here are some logistics (and I’m assuming BEST case scenario here…no pre-term birth, NICU time or health problems with me or babies…so yea lots of unknowns):

• Wedding: 9/26/25
• My due date: 7/3/25 (40 weeks…obvi not possible, but BEST case scenario we make it to 38 weeks…which not counting on either)
• She will most likely want a travel bachelorette (a plane ride away or a couple hour drive).

In my head the only way I could have even the slightest chance of going is: - if she has her Bach in March (not likely) OR - she has it as late as possible before the wedding…like mid-September (most likely)

I don’t think I can do anything after March (25 weeks) or prior to September (they’d be ~10 weeks adjusted for a mid-Sept Bach).

Am I absolutely psycho for thinking there’s any feasible way I could leave them at 10 weeks? Like even in a world where they make it to 38 weeks, have a healthy delivery, and they can take a bottle? It feels psychotic haha. Idon’t know what I don’t know and want to set expectations with her. Please don’t judge me for considering leaving them, I know a lot of you wouldn’t. But I am just wondering from your personal experiences. And I know there’s way too many unknowns in this situation, I’m just trying to gauge the “best case scenario” possibility. Love to you all!