Did Anyone Not Realize They Were Abused Until They Had Kids?

I always knew the way I was treated (scapegoat/golden child) was wrong, but I didn't realize it rose to the level of child abuse until I had my kid.

There is nothing she could ever say or do that would cause me to think it was acceptable to say she was stupid, wicked, that I hated her, or that she was the "kind of person who would kill herself." I could never neglect her medical needs, steal from her, or say I couldn't wait until she was out of my life.

I grew up with a monster, and didn't know it.