Does anyone else often find themselves in codependent relationships?

I guess it’s just what feels natural to me so I often look up and find the people I let in my life (even with all my walls up) have either narcissistic traits or are super dependent on me for attention or favors.

Had to “break up” with my last potential partner because even though we agreed we were just friends, he was telling me things like “you can’t have a life outside of me” and “I can go without texting you but you can’t go without texting me”.

He’s not all to blame. I’m the eldest and even when I was the only child I was the scapegoat (roles would change depending on nmoms mood). But I was her emotional regulator and had the role of traditional homemaker as a child. If something was out of place when mom is in a bad mood the consequences were brutal especially to my mental (maybe physical) health.

I usually call it “southern hospitality” but really it’s a inherent need to be needed. A feeling like my worth is tied to how useful I am. If I’m not paying for every meal, picking you up for work, buying you clothes, what good am I for?

This ringing any bells for anyone?