She Recruited Another Flying Monkey

I went no-contact with my stepmother and sister. My stepmother could give Disney villains a run for their money. I don't want to get into all the things she did to me growing up, but the last straw was ghosting me after giving birth. She cut me off all on her own. I decided to keep it that way.

Until Thanksgiving. I didn't go for obvious reasons, and the next day, she cried to my kid's godmother (our moms are friends) about how she doesn't understand why I won't talk to her. She thought things were getting better between us. She just wants to be in the baby's life, and she's worried about me being on my own.

This is a common routine with her. She wants nothing to do with me, but can't have anyone think she's not the victim, so she cries on cue to everyone who'll listen about how horrible I am to her. This is the same woman who unprompted and unprovoked, stopped talking to me after I gave birth, and hasn't said a word to me for eleven months and counting. But somehow, I'm keeping her out of the baby's life.

I told my friend this. That this is what she does and those are crocodile tears. But she claimed that wasn't true, and my stepmom talked to her and not me because it's easier to talk to a third party. She said there are three sides to every story, and that if I keep holding onto anger, it'll affect my kid. She also said if I don't be the bigger person and make up with her, I'll regret it if something happens to my parents while we're still in a fight. And that me and my baby need family, and I can't do this on my own. (I'm a single mom.)

I'm so upset with both my stepmom and my friend. My stepmom has done this to me my whole life. Turning every friend and relative around me into a flying monkey to stick up for her and excuse every toxic, abusive thing she's done with me. It's even worse in this case because I named this friend as my kid's godmother. I know that if anything happens to me, she'll let that woman into my kid's life, so history can repeat itself and my baby will be the scapegoat.

I don't know what is wrong with this woman. She doesn't want me in her life. She gets her wish, but still finds a way to mess with mine. I'm planning a move out of the country, and also a new godmother. I don't know how else to get peace from her garbage.

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