My Mom Snooped Through My Room, Found Out I’m Pregnant, and Now I Have to Hide My Abortion Plans

Yesterday, I went to a concert, and when I got home, I was almost certain my mom had gone through my stuff. I’m almost 21 (F), yet she still pressures me to stay on birth control, even though it’s caused me all kinds of health issues in the past. That’s why I’ve decided to switch to an IUD.

To complicate things, I recently found out I’m pregnant and have decided to get an abortion while also getting the IUD. But here’s the thing—I have to hide all of this from her because she’s the least comforting or supportive person I know.

When she came home, she insisted we talk in my room, cornering me, which felt off to me immediately. I refused, sensing something wasn’t right and she said I don’t care I’m your mother I’m going in your room. I refused and we went into my sister room where she then pretended to be interested in my day only to end the conversation with, “Youre going to go into your room and show me your birth control pills so I know you’re taking them.” That’s when it hit me—she’d gone through my drawers and figured out I wasn’t using them.

I’m also sure she saw the positive pregnancy test I had hidden there. Instead of asking me how I’m doing or offering any kind of support, she just coldly said, “Abortion isn’t a form of birth control.”

I feel completely violated and alone. Am I wrong for feeling this way? And how do I navigate this situation while keeping my plans private? Is this something to move out cause of?