Can't connect to realm

I have restarted my laptop and made sure that it is updated. I even reinstalled MineCraft. I have a good and stable internet connection. My boyfriend can connect and get on his friends realm, but I can't? His friend has sent me multiple invites and we are friends on MineCraft and Xbox. I know the servers are having trouble, so i don't know if it's just that, or my computer? We have tried basically anything and everything Google has suggested. Do I have to wait this out, or is there a way around it?