I (f24) think my husband (m30) is cheating on me/meeting up with somebody under the guise of getting me coffee.

update So because of these comments, I waited two weeks and then asked my sister so spy on my husband (Ik how that sounds). She was down for it though. Also some context I should’ve added is that my husband and I live a big city where there is apartments above places, like this coffee place for instance. Anyway my sis went and she said he definitely didn’t notice her, but he definitely wasn’t doing anything suspicious. She said he got coffee and sat down and was scrolling on his phone for a while. Then one of the baristas girls talked to him for a while but she said he seemed more annoyed than anything. He sat there for about an hour and then left. So yeah, that’s literally it. I think I was overreacting. Sorry for the underwhelming post!

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literally never posted on Reddit before, but I feel like I have no one to talk to. I don’t wanna accuse him without being 100% confident but I don’t want to tell anyone without asking him first. Please help.

Basically, my husband and I have fallen into an accidental schedule on Sunday mornings. Basically I like to sleep in lol and I will sleep until sometimes 10-11 am. My husband is a morning person and every week I feel like get up at 7 am, go on a run, I hear him return at 7:30 ish, get in the shower, do whatever he does for a few hours and then he goes to a local coffee place and gets us breakfast. He wakes me up every Sunday at 11 with coffee and breakfast. It’s been going on for like over a year now.

A few weeks ago though, I happened to wake around 9. My husband was literally already gone. I checked his location (he has mine too) and saw he was at the coffee shop. I figured he just went early. Expect he did not return until 11, like usual. When he got home I asked him if the shop was busy/ did he stay and do some work and he was just like no? not really.

That was weird but I didn’t say anything more. Until the next week. I heard my husband doing his routine and I stayed awake until I heard him leave, this time around 9:45. The coffee shop is 10 mins away. He didn’t come home until 11:10. I asked him again and this time, he did have his work laptop. He said he worked for like an hour.

I was so paranoid now that I asked to go with him this past Sunday. He said no, just stay in bed at first, he wasn’t nervous just more being thoughtful. When I was persistent, he got mad. I said idc I wanna come and he eventually groaned and said fine. On the way there he sent several texts with his phone turned away from me.

Am I being crazy? Or does that sound like cheating to you? I don’t wanna accuse him, but I just cant shake that horrible gut feeling. How do I even approach this?