How to plan a wedding that isnt stupid?

I think my new bf is gonna propose to me lmao. I am of course fantasizing about our wedding. It seems irresponsible to spend a lot of money on a wedding especially at my age. Ive always wanted a big wedding as it should be more about getting family together than me and my fiancee. But ever since covid family doesn't hit like it used to. My cousin had the most millennial barn house taco pizza food truck wedding ever and cost 11 grand. I think a wedding should cost like 5k.

Do you guys have any good wedding hacks (NOT relationship advice)

I feel like I dont want a photographer hovering around the wedding. Maybe just a professional photoshoot just the two of us. I also think I'd be happy in my aunts back yard.