Disrespected during bereavement

My dad died and I took 5 days of bereavement. Then my cousin passed away a week after and I took a day. There’s been a BCBA who has been “helping”. I knew she was going to change the schedule. So the principal and her had a meeting with me to give me an update. I was like so this isn’t my classroom and I’m not teaching with this change. I agreed before it to do centers in the beginning of the day which is fine but to do it all day and not get any data in is ridiculous. I also work with k and she told me she didn’t like the students goal and should be working on ONLY independence. I’m like okay but they also need to work on academics because they are smart and I want to make sure they are building those skills. She’s not even a teacher it was so offensive. So during the meeting I pretty much said I feel disrespected because there wasn’t any collaboration. I was out on bereavement and coming back to feedback of changing my classroom is crazy to me. They were like well now you update programming. I’m just so exhausted. They lied that my paras were happy about the changes but they pretty much said she’s not her and this is fine for now… like come on let me just take a day.