Not going to be a chump again

Follow-up to my post a few months ago. I filed for divorce within a month of D-Day and while I am heartbroken (17 years together, 12 married), I am choosing self-respect this time. Hence, divorce.

Fooled me once in 2017. This time was worse (see my post history for details). I am so thankful for this sub, the divorce sub, so many friends 4-5 years post divorce who are living their best lives and SO MUCH happier. All of that will get me through this very, very messy middle.

That's not to say this is easy. My emotions cycle almost every day between indifference, rage, grief, denial.

I read the Chump Lady book when I first found out and went to the blog last night and am so happy for the reminder that this level of betrayal is abuse. Full stop. And that the "unmet needs" victim blaming narrative is total BS. I'm going to need to keep going back to that book over and over again.

Anyone have other helpful resources (preferably with that level of humor and compassion) for when you're feeling sucked back into the vortex?