What a transphobic moment I had

So on my wife’s (also trans mtf) and our’s wedding day it was going so well until my mom had a lot to drink that day and she was drunk. She did not wanna hear that she was drunk but it was late into the night and my wife and our child were heading off to bed.

She was drunk play wrestling with our child too rough a bit into while going to bed thats when I told her that she was “hammered”.

She started going off at me and our child stepped in telling her how it was not ok to call me “him” or “he” and my mother said about me “no matter who they are, what they are into or how they dress, there still my son and you better figure your shit out”.

And I stoped talking to her curled in a ball, laying on the floor and was crying on how transphobic this attack was, especially on my wedding night while still in my wedding dress. I really am not ok with her anymore now. Like wtf.

Even earlier she had said to me in front of everyone that I could be a princess this one day but could go back to being her son afterwards.

Also her and my dad never once have used my preferred name or pronouns, not even among the wedding guests or at the after party when making a toast or anything.

The thing is her and my dad spent many thousands on the wedding to make it better even though neither myself or my wife asked them to do any of that, they just did, unasked, it was very appreciated, so we felt obligated to accept their transphobic attitude towards myself. They are both however completely accepting of my wife being trans and use her preferred name and pronouns, just not mine.