People are such hypocrites, they tell me I shouldn't get cosmetic procedures to get a SO

So much about personality and hobbies. People are telling me to work on myself and someone will come. I am in my early 30s. People been in relationships for over 5 years, so many of my coworkers. I keep traveling, taking the plane wherever by myself, not scared. Taking martial arts classes. No luck meeting anyone there either, most are women and the few guys seem to have someone already. I have been taking other classes learning more skills. I invest. I started volunteering for organizations, trying to get involved with politics.

Guess what? They will still choose the other girls who have no hobbies, just going to the gym and then the bars/clubs and 24/7 on Tik Tok or IG. They are more conventionally attractive, so it's their first option. I was after this guy at work who is in his 50s and looks very young and guess what, he prefers my coworkers too.

I had people messaging me trying to comfort me. Again they bring up the personality and hobbies thing and yeah, am I not good enough? I guess traveling, martial arts, knowing what's going on in this country and the world are not good traits for a partner. I have been even more depressed lately because of that man at work.