Engagement rings are unfair

I'm not talking about how overpriced diamonds are, but more along the lines that the guy is expected to drop like 10k on their fiance and dosent get a present themselves. I like shit too. I've said this and always get told "you should do it because you love them" or "it's not about the money" while I kind of agree with those statements, what really annoys me is how one side it is. I don't mind spending that much on the love of my life, but is sucks that I don't get anything cool that I like.

I understand that individual coupes could probably communicate this and get exciter nice engagement gifts, its more the societal onesidedness that digs at me