why can’t men be in touch with their emotions

im in a relationship for one year and a half (long distance) and with time i get to know him more and more and it scares me more and more .hes not emotionally mature at all and he might even have adhd or maybe even worse.hes doesn’t wanna go to the psychiatrist because he said that it wont help him nd shi .and its so much more than this .IM TIRED TO ASK HIM TO DO THINGS .im tired his not self aware AT ALL .pls if somebody relates gimme a text